We all know that black women excel at many things. Who am I kidding? We excel at most things! *insert Jeezy laugh here*. However, there are some things that come almost second nature. We’ve seen it in action from our own mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, friends and teachers. We even see it in ourselves. After some thought and surveying other queens, I was able to narrow it down to 5 things that black women have down to a science.
1. Attitude/The Clapback: Okay, okay! I know we sometimes get a bad rep for having attitudes or being “angry black women” and we are certainly not angry, but you have to admit… we will not hesitate to get somebody together. We have all of the comebacks and we are the Clapback Champions of the World. We have attitude so engrained in us, that you can see it in our walk and you can definitely hear it when we talk. Attitude is not always bad. We are confident and colorful and to be honest… We really can’t help it! We’re often smart mouth and sassy, but we can shade anybody without even opening our mouths to speak. A lip smack, eye roll, smirk, or quick “hmm!” topped off with the view of us walking away is all we need to let it be known “don’t play with me.” As a more passive aggressive “shader” myself, I love to see other black women assert their attitude or clapback when it’s deserved. Just sayin’!
2. The Slay: Listen… giiirrrrlll. We’ve been slaying long before we ever got in formation. (Shoutout to Queen Bey, Blue and the twins, too!) From head to toe, we know how to turn heads and break necks. In all shapes, sizes and shades of brown, we define beauty. Our hair, fashion, makeup and even our natural physical features have influenced pop culture forever. We are trendsetters in every way, but each one of us has a different way to slay. You have the Erykah Badu types with the “feng shui" in their living rooms, the Serena types that win at everything, including body goals, the Rihanna types that are just living unbothered, fine as shit, and likely high as hell, as well as the Jill Scott types that are full figured and fabulous. The list is so long. We come in every different flavor and we kill any scene we walk on without even having to try.
3. Investigation Skills: This one is hilarious to me, but it’s so true. We are better than the FBI. We know where to look, when to look, how to keep it a secret and when to let the cat out the bag. If it’s out there, we’ll find it. We all have that one friend or cousin who we can call with minimal information and she’ll come back with a whole report. Your man’s hiding something? We’ll find out. Somebody’s messing with one of your loved ones, but they won’t say who? We’ll get to the bottom of it. Sherlock Holmes ain’t got nothing on the black female inspector. We have all the tea and whatever tea we don’t have, we’ll get it.
4. Achievement: I think if you looked up “over achiever” in the dictionary, you would find a picture of fine black woman in a business suit, holding a trophy, a newborn baby, a laptop and writing on a chalkboard. We usually run circles around our counterparts and look fabulous doing it. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, more degrees were conferred to black women than any other demographic, based on race and gender, in 2012-2013. Don’t believe me? Check it out for yourself here: https://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=72. We are natural hustlers, multi-taskers, and standard setters. We go for the gold and make it look way too easy.
5. Parenting/Discipline: We are natural nurturers. We set our kids straight, your kids straight and anybody’s kid that steps out of line, straight too. Remember when you would get beside yourself as a child and your mom would give you “that” look? Well, it’s one of many things that I’m excited I inherited. (I can’t wait to look into my kid’s soul one day when they get crazy!) We have a natural gift of correcting bad behavior. We are disciplined and we employ that discipline in our young. This often breeds respectful and well behaved children (in most cases, but we’ll discuss bad kids another day), as well as respect for the roles we play in raising young innovators, geniuses, and well-rounded future citizens.
These are just 5 things that I found to be true about black women and our natural knacks, but we are not limited to just these things. I’m interested to hear what you guys think! Comment on this post and tell us what you think black women have down to a science.
Until next time, stay beautiful and protect your magic…